Why I Stopped Saying This One Phrase and How it Changed My Life

 (This photo was taken on July 17, 2016. Thomas was only 12 days old! So teeny!)

Before I was pregnant, if you had asked me how I was doing, I would almost always reply with "good! Tired, but good!". Sometimes it would be accompanied by a chuckle and "but aren't we all?" It was just something I always said because it was how I felt… I was tired. Often, exhausted. I had been tested for every potential vitamin deficiency but that hadn't given me any answers. I decided that I was just a terrible sleeper and I was probably destined to just be tired forever.

During my pregnancy I was extremely nauseous for the first 24 weeks. It was like a 24 hour hangover without the sweet sweet relief of actually throwing up. I eventually went on diclectin which helped the nausea but came with a side effect of making me even more tired. So of course, when people asked me how I was doing I would tell them I was tired. One day, after saying the word "tired" for the billionth time I realized I didn't want to be known as this tired person. Even if I was tired I would rather people focus on other things about me. I didn't want to be seen as the tired pregnant woman. I wanted to be known as the happy or excited pregnant woman, because I was those things as well.

So I decided I would no longer say the words "I'm tired" out loud no matter how I was feeling. Slowly but surely I started to notice something… I wasn't as tired. It was probably a coincidence though, right? Once the baby came I would obviously be exhausted again.

Then Thomas arrived. My adorable little nugget of joy. Let me take a quick moment to explain Thomas' sleep habits. When I brought him home from the hospital he started cluster feeding immediately. That meant he fed every 30 minutes for days. He also would only sleep on me (I would literally tie him to me so I could get some shut eye without him rolling off - see the photo above). I'll summarize the following 9 months by saying that he wanted to feed every 2 hours… every night… until about a week ago. Now we get a few three hour stretches in as well haha. I like to think of my sleeping as a lot of naps, and who doesn't love a nap?

I'll leave the topic of his sleep at that for now but my point is that I haven't really had a solid nights sleep since Thomas was born. The crazy thing? I'm still not as tired as I was before I decided to stop saying "I'm tired". I had stopped saying it because of how I thought other people were perceiving me but I had no idea it would actually change how tired I felt. That realization has made me such a huge believer in the power of words and their effect on how we feel.

To be fair, I'd been told the importance of the spoken word before but putting it into practice and actually believing in it has honestly changed my life. I've always considered myself a pretty positive person but I found as I got older the self talk in my mind started turning more and more negative. I found myself complaining instead of finding solutions. I was really hard on myself over the silliest things. I wasn't unhappy by any means but I really wasn't focusing on the positives. Since I stopped allowing myself to say this one phrase there has been a shift in my entire mindset.

This isn't to say that I never talk about what's bothering me because I'm a huge believer in working through problems. Sometimes life is just hard and it's really important to acknowledge that and work through it. I just try (keyword is try) to make sure that my words have a purpose and that they will hopefully result in a solution. There are still areas of my life where I know I need to be kinder to myself and focus more on the positives. There are still times I start venting and realize I just sound really negative. I'm working on it though, slowly but surely.

I also know that there are a handful of other words I still need to eliminate from my vocabulary and phrases that serve no purpose. Like, do I really need to say "baby weight" ever again? I vote No.


Spring Evening

I usually try to wear tops that are breast feeding friendly and all of my clothes need to be drool proof at this point... sigh, there's just so much drool. This leaves me pretty limited in my top choices these days and honestly I don't really mind wearing the same practical tops on repeat. However, if I know I will be baby free for a few hours I immediately start digging through the section of my closet that is full of items that are not baby proof. I have so many pieces that I love but I haven't been wearing. This floral top might not be breast feeding friendly but it's perfect for enjoying a glass of wine on a patio with girlfriends.

Top- Forever21
Skirt- Club Monaco
Pumps- Zara


Almost 10 Months?!

Something that has been top of mind for me lately is the reality that Thomas is almost 10 months old. That means I'm only a couple months away from him turning one and my return to work. I'm feeling very aware of how quickly time is passing and I'm really trying to treasure every moment with Thomas. I'll be going back to work in a new position which I am looking forward to. I was the general manager before leaving but wanted to have a little more flexibility upon my return so my new role will be around people development, something I am extremely passionate about. As much as I'm looking forward to this new challenge, I am struggling with the idea of not spending all day every day with my baby boy.

We were really fortunate to be able to get Thomas into an amazing daycare a few days a week so I'm so lucky that I don't have to stress about where he will be when I'm back at work. I'm just not ready to  think about my days at work with him at daycare because I am loving (or obsessed with) every second I am at home with him. I'm trying to avoid thinking about it too much and I'm happy living in a state of blissful denial.

I am absolutely loving this stage in Thomas' development. This kid has the best little personality (I realize I'm biased) and he makes me laugh so much. We've had some difficult days with teething but the most difficult part is knowing he's in pain and I can only do so much to help. We are on a bit of a teething break at the moment so we've had lots of time with our happy little boy. Is there anything better than when a baby gets the giggles?


The Loveliest Personalized Necklaces

I had every intention of posting this on Thursday but then Thomas had a fever which turned into a head cold so I've been on cuddle duty since then. My sick little baby boy is actually the reason for this post (sort of) so if he's the reason it's a little late I can't complain.

Since Thomas was born I've loved the idea of a personalized necklace with his name on it. I've been looking on different etsy pages at different necklaces but just hadn't settled on anything. Some of the prices were quite high and I knew that if I had to "invest" in a piece of jewelry to wear around Thomas' grabby little hands I would just never end up wearing it. Then I discovering oNecklace's collection of personalized jewelry and I fell in love with the engraved necklaces. How lovely is the handwritten Thomas on this necklace? I love how subtle it is and I've been wearing it non stop since receiving it.

I also loved the idea of this monogrammed "C" necklace. Changing my last name from Knight to Cartier when I got married was a little emotional. I definitely wanted to change my name (I know not everyone does) but I had been Melissa Knight for 33 years and it was a harder transition than I anticipated. I'm so in love with my little family and I'm so happy to be a Cartier now so I thought this monogram was a great representation of this milestone in my life.

With Mother's Day coming up I wanted to share these with you because I think they are such a sweet and personal gift option.

Now I must go and continue my sick baby cuddling duty. I was able to distract him for a few minutes but that has officially expired haha. Have a great weekend, everyone!

Here are the details of the two necklaces I received.

Letter: C
Chain length: 20
Fine rolo chain

Name: Thomas
Chain length: 20
Fine rolo chain

*While these necklaces were generously sent to me this is not a sponsored post and all opinions are my own.  These are not affiliate links and if you have any questions about these necklaces please let me know xo